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I see so many women through my work who have disconnected from themselves and their bodies, to avoid emotional pain or trauma that has been left buried. By the time they come to see me, they know intuitively that something needs to change, they feel it in their body and have a deep sense of overwhelm, anger, sadness, or grief but they cannot articulate it. This is the wounded feminine.
The body (and mind) disconnects for this very purpose to protect us from reliving the experiences and emotions that have caused the original wounding. At the same time however, it also cuts us off from the feminine wisdom within that knows how to heal herself – the feminine energy body and subconscious mind.
The masks we wear: coping strategies of the wounded feminine
What we bury in terms of emotions and trauma we would rather not face, will eventually surface. It will manifest as a physical issue in our bodies or as emotional issues, such as depression and self-sabotage for example. We might figure out a way to avoid that emotional pain and over time, even years, it works. We show up every day with our masks firmly in place to avoid having to face the truth of how we truly feel.
These masks usually form in response to a past wound, such as experiences of neglect, trauma, abandonment, disconnection from our mothers, over-responsibility, or other emotional challenges. This is essentially our coping mechanism or survival strategy that as women we will have adopted to navigate the world, in the wake of our early experiences.
Manifestations of buried emotions and trauma
The effect on our lives however when we don’t address the wounds that need to be healed can also be self-destructive – it can affect all areas of our lives and how we show up and communicate with others and what we believe we deserve. We cannot be our true authentic selves as women and create the life we desire if we have abandoned ourselves and our voice.
It also has a negative effect in terms of the life decisions we make – we are in effect shielding ourselves from further pain and vulnerability sometimes unknowingly, which might be stopping us from reaching our full potential because it doesn’t feel safe to change.
Examples of the wounded feminine: The People Pleaser
Think of the People Pleaser, for example, she prioritises others' needs and constantly seeks external validation, sometimes without even realising it. Often, she will suppress her desires and needs to keep the peace. Avoiding conflict and hiding her true self would be extremely important and sometimes at the cost of her own voice (speaking up for what she wants) and boundaries. Not only is this exhausting, it causes anxiety and essentially leads to burnout and resentment.
Unmasking your true self: acknowledging and healing the wounded feminine
So - why would we look at the source of our pain when it is so much easier to just ignore it? I want to ask you: Who would you be WITHOUT it? How would your life improve and how much easier would it be if you could finally acknowledge, heal, and release what has been holding you back? If you could connect to your inner feminine wisdom and create a life that feels authentic to who you truly are? What would your life look like then and how would it feel?
Our minds and bodies are wise and know what is required to heal, to help us move forward, and feel at peace – and will allow us to do the work with the right support, environment, and tools. The question is: are you creating the support network and resources that you need to help you do that?
Are you feeling unbalanced or unfulfilled in ways you can't quite explain? If you want to dive deeper into understanding how wounded feminine energy can impact your life, your mindset, and body, reach out today to get unstuck and begin your journey of self-discovery and empowerment ❤
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